When Logic Meets Feeling

I have spent the past three months in the company of a man who used to design algorithms for machines and now designs frameworks for living. Mo Gawdat, former Chief Business Officer of Google X, wrote four books that I’ve devoured in succession: “Scary Smart”, “Unstressable”, “Solve for Happy” and “That Little Voice In Your Head: Adjust the Code That Runs Your Brain”.

On paper, he’s an engineer. In spirit, he’s a philosopher. And somewhere between those two identities lies a way of thinking about the human condition that I’ve come to love deeply. For someone like me, who has always found comfort in the precision of mathematics, his approach to human experience is strangely satisfying.

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When Enough Never Feels Like Enough: Reflections on Matthew Perry’s Memoir

One of the books I’ve read in the past month is Matthew Perry’s memoir “Friends, Lovers, and the Big Terrible Thing”. I didn’t expect to cry reading it. And I didn’t expect Matthew Perry, a man I knew mostly as Chandler Bing, the sarcastic glue of one of my favorite comfort shows, to tell my story, in a way. Not the addiction part, exactly. Not the rehabs or the pills. But the feeling behind it. The engine under it. That desperate, invisible hunger to feel worthy. To be enough. I knew that feeling by the time I was eight.

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Time, Coffee and the Stories We Keep

The past month has been a month of literary indulgence. I devoured eleven books, but there is one that’s stuck with me in a way I didn’t expect. ‘Tales from the Café’ by Toshikazu Kawaguchi.

There’s something quietly seismic about Kawaguchi’s writing. His prose doesn’t shout, it listens. It asks questions with the gentleness of steam rising from a cup and yet the answers land with the weight of lives half-lived, regrets unspoken, love left lingering in doorways we didn’t return to.

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